3 steps towards a healthy spiritual practice

Is your spirituality keeping you stuck? Is your spirituality working against you? Are you living an illusion?

If you ever felt your spiritual practice doesn’t get you anywhere. You aren’t feeling better. On the contrary, you feel more lost than before, confused and disoriented. Too concerned about spiritual experiences rather than living your real life, then this article is for you.

The truth is that anything can work for the good or for the not so good – it all depends on how it’s used. Yes, even spirituality.

I truly believe in the power of positive affirmations, meditation, creative visualisation, journalling, reiki, positive mindset, and deep healing.

I value the power of spiritual energies, celestial beings, elemental energies, archetypes that inspire us with wisdom.

I am content with the absolute bliss we can experience after a healing session, especially if it involves meditation and smudging with sage.

It makes us feel good, at peace, more resilient and connected to the present moment. I offer many of these sessions myself, to myself and to you guys too.


If all you do in your spiritual practice is to:

  • feed your ego with self-sufficient affirmations without taking action
  • engage in excessive self-love practices without taking the love outside yourself to help others
  • look for messages that confirm your current beliefs rather than challenging your beliefs to find what works in your advantage and what works against you
  • take all the failures as ”lessons” without analysing and really learning the lessons
  • practice meditation to avoid reality and not face what is really going on
  • place the responsibility outside yourself for example: Mercury retrograde, the solar eclipse, the Universe, without looking into what you could do differently next time to change those unpleasant circumstances

Then, it is time to rethink if your spirituality really gets you somewhere.

I’ll give you my story … When I started to walk on my spiritual path, I learned many techniques about keeping myself positive, hopeful and trusting.

But this did not lead me where I wanted to be.

I was looking everywhere around, trying to figure out what’s going on, consulting sweet oracle cards that gave me lovely messages of encouragement and reassurance.

Yet I wasn’t getting there.

I started to question and realised that my too positive spiritual practice made me to avoid:

  • to see what’s going on
  • to take action

It wasn’t until I was ready to meet my shadow side, to face the unpleasant truth, that I was able to make real changes.

It’s good to formulate sentences that help us move forward and see things a little lighter.

But I do not believe in avoiding the truth, life it’s not all flowers and butterflies – let’s be honest about it. We have low moments, we look at them and we ask: what can I do differently? What I want to change? How could I change?

3 steps to use spirituality in a healthy way

#1. Self-love

– cultivate healthy boundaries, rest when you need, do your exercises, eat healthily, engage in activities that raise your energy levels. But do not stop here. After you filled your heart with love, trust and energy, go and spread the love to others. Do charity work, start a project that supports others, be kind, be helpful, be grateful, love more.

#2 Seek the truth

When something is not going well in your life, look at what you could do to change the situation.

Do you always have problems with money? Look at new ways of making money, get a better job, spend less. Perhaps is time to learn new skills and upgrade yourself.

When your love life sucks, look at where you can meet a person that is like-minded, look at your beliefs about love, look at what you want to offer, and also accept when you are afraid, insecure, needy, too demanding, or overgiving.

#3 Accept your weaknesses

– this is a huge step in making any change. Look at yourself and don’t be afraid to look at your shadow. Is there any negative behaviour that you need to address, any aspect that needs to be changed? Perhaps you are lazy, you are afraid to get out of the comfort zone, you’re placing responsibility onto others without taking responsibility yourself.


Have you just lost your job? Ask yourself: if I didn’t like this job, what stopped me to look after another job before being made redundant? Did I give my best resources to this job, did I discuss it with my boss?

If the organisation you worked for wasn’t suitable for you, what made you stay? The lack of security? Lack of knowledge? Or just the fear to take action?

Think about what you could’ve done better and identify some spots to take action and prevent the same thing to happen. Learn the lesson by improving yourself, do not stay in the same place and repeat the same errors by perpetuating the same behaviour.

#4 Take action

– once you identified your weaknesses things become easier as you are now in a position to change yourself. To use the same example you could look at: what skills I need to upgrade, what behaviours should I cultivate to make myself useful and dependable, how are my communication skills, professional knowledge etc. If you really don’t like the job or the field you worked in look at what you need to learn to be able to make a change.

What I really, really ask you to do is to start taking responsibility, to look at your life with a realistic eye and get yourself ready to face some shadow aspects of yourself that you perhaps don’t like and have to do something about them. Start living a life that is empowering and use your spirituality in your interest to make you an independent, free being.

You are a wonderful human being deserving to live in your full power to make the most of your life in the best possible way!

Until next time,

Divine blessings and inspiration may flow into your way.